Article Critique: Self-Disclosure, Gender, and Communication
Review the article entitled, â€œCan We Talk? Researcher Talks about the Role of Communication in Happy Marriages,â€ from the ProQuest database found in the Ashford Online Library. Write a one-page paper (excluding title and reference pages) about your thoughts on this article. In your paper, be sure to address the following:
- Can you relate to this article on self-disclosure in relationships? If so, explain what specifically you could relate to and provide examples of your own experiences. If not, what has your experience been regarding self-disclosure in your intimate relationships?
- Do you agree that self-disclosure is important and directly related to satisfaction in relationships? Why or why not?
- What about gender differences? Remember, although research has found differences in gender communication, it has also found similarities. What kind of similarities between genders have you experienced?
- Lastly, remember that although research is based on generalizations, not everyone fits into these generalizations regarding gender. Do you feel like you fit into the generalizations?
Be sure to reference the ProQuest article and at least one of your other course readings from this week in your paper. This can be your textbook or one of the recommended articles. The paper must be formatted according to APA style. Cite your resources in text and on the reference page.
this is the article:
We’ve all speculated about that couple in the restaurant, the one that sits there in stony silence.
Are they bored? Furious? Frustrated? All of the above?
The British dating site ForgetDinner.co.uk recently set off a fresh wave of hand-wringing when it claimed that a couple married for 50 years will speak for an average of only three minutes during an hourlong dinner.
But Terri Orbuch isn’t all that concerned.
“As a relationship expert, I do not talk about quantity; I talk about consistent, quality communication,” says Orbuch, a research scientist at the Institute for Social Research at the University of Michigan who has studied 373 married couples for more than 20 years. “You can have a two-hour conversation and not talk about anything of substance or value or quality.”
So how do you cultivate and sustain the kind of communication that has actually been tied to long-term, happy marriages?
Consider setting aside 10 minutes a day for quality conversation, says Orbuch, who recently wrote about the practical implications of her research in “5 Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great” (Delacorte Press, $26).
“Many couples think they’re communicating with each other” when they sort out who will pick up the kids, pay the bills or call the grandparents, says Orbuch. But that’s not the kind of communication she’s talking about.
“In the (research) literature, as well as for my couples, communication means you’re sharing and really getting to know one another,” she says.
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