side notes: I’m not married and I don’t have any kids, and I’m a female.

If you are a male ask yourself or another male in your family the following questions:

• Did you attend the birth of your child, were you there at the moment of birth?
• Did attending (or not attending) affect your attachment to your new son or daughter?
• Do you think you could pick your own newborn baby out of a group of other newborns, or do they all look alike to you?

If you are a female ask your husband, your father, your grandfather, or other male relative who is already a father to answer those same questions.